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Sex after Childbirth

There are no rules about when to start having sex again after you’ve given birth. Immediately after the baby is born, many women feel sore as well as tired. Don’t rush into it. If sex hurts, it won’t be pleasurable. The first time, you may want to use a lubricating jelly (available from pharmacies) because hormone changes can make your vagina feel drier than usual.
You may be worried about the state of your body or about getting pregnant again. Men can have problems too. Apart from tiredness, a father’s sexual feelings will probably be much the same as before his baby’s birth. But many men worry about what’s right for their partner. They’re unsure what to do and they feel worried and frustrated.
It might be some time before you want to have sex. Until then, both of you may feel happier being loving and close in other ways.
If you or your partner have any worries, talk about them together. If you need some help, talk with your doctor or ask .
The following suggestions may help:
If penetration hurts, say so. It’s not pleasant to have sex if it causes pain. If you pretend everything’s alright when it isn’t, you may start to see sex as a nuisance or unpleasant rather than a pleasure, which won’t help either of you. You can still give each other pleasure without penetration (for example by mutual masturbation).
Be careful the first few times you have sex. Explore with your own fingers first to reassure yourself that it won’t hurt. Use plenty of extra lubrication, such as lubricating jelly. Hormonal changes after childbirth may mean that you won’t be as lubricated as usual.
Make time to relax together. There’s little point trying to make love when your minds are on other things and not on each other.
Take your time. If you still experience pain two months or so after the birth, talk to your doctor or family planning clinic. You can get treatment for a painful episiotomy scar.
If you are breastfeeding
During foreplay or when your partner is caressing your breasts, you may produce jets of milk. If the two of you are okay about it, then its alright. If you find it off-putting, you should try breastfeeding the baby before having sex, so that your breasts are empty as much as possible.
Contraception after childbirth
You can get pregnant as little as three weeks after the birth of a baby, even if you’re breastfeeding and your periods haven’t started again.
Use some kind of contraception every time you have sex after giving birth, including the first time (unless you want to get pregnant again). You’ll usually have an opportunity to discuss the options before you leave hospital after your child’s birth and at the postnatal check. But you can also talk to your doctor or go to a family planning clinic at any time.
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